Self-esteem is basically your opinion about yourself. If you have a high self-esteem you will probably think very highly of yourself but if you have a low self-esteem you will probably be very critical and negative about yourself so ideally you want your self-esteem to sit somewhere nicely in the middle of the spectrum. What … Continue reading Self-Esteem
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Childhood Traumas
We all know that our childhood plays a big role in our adult lives and what we experience as a child can be carried with us into adulthood, so for a child to experience some sort of trauma, it’s damaging in many ways. I matured a lot quicker than my friends, other people my age … Continue reading Childhood Traumas
Anxious Predictions
We all make predictions, it’s a normal way of thinking but anxiety can cause us to make unnecessarily negative predictions which we believe could be true, resulting in us either avoiding/hiding or bringing ourselves down. Anxious predictions are usually unrealistic and/or negative, these predictions can be anything such as: I’m not going to win anyway … Continue reading Anxious Predictions
Working With Mental Illnesses
I have an interesting history with employment, not so much where I have worked, but more how I was during the times I worked at those places. My first proper job was waitressing at my mums cafe, I loved it, I was earning my own money and keeping myself busy during my weekends at home … Continue reading Working With Mental Illnesses
Finding My Listener
Mental health has reached a point now where it is getting recognised, understood and accepted which is bloody brilliant but there is still an issue regarding listening, it's a skill that we aren’t ever really taught how to use. I’m more of a listener than a talker, I’d rather let someone chat about whatever they … Continue reading Finding My Listener
Writing Therapy
I’ve always enjoyed writing, even in school I enjoyed my English classes, I wasn’t the best at it, but it was something I secretly enjoyed. Once I left school I didn’t really do any writing. I wrote assignments for college but that was more of a chore than anything else and I used to always … Continue reading Writing Therapy
Narrative Exposure Therapy
When my counsellor and me were working through my PTSD I had some homework that I needed to complete which was to write a script of the trauma from when it started through to when it ended and then mark my anxiety level (on a scale from 1-100) as I was reading it through. This … Continue reading Narrative Exposure Therapy
Self-Compassion
Self compassion was something I learnt whilst going through my cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). To have compassion for someone is to be sympathetic towards them, for however they are feeling or whatever they have been through. Now, those that know me will know that I hate, hate receiving sympathy. I always have done. I don’t … Continue reading Self-Compassion
Kitchen Anxiety
Oh anxiety, you sometimes have to laugh at it when it pops up. Anxiety has prevented me from doing many things throughout my life, one of them being cooking. I get a lot of anxiety whilst in the kitchen and surprisingly it relates back to my social anxiety. Social anxiety as a whole is mostly … Continue reading Kitchen Anxiety
Anxiety For Me
My relationship with anxiety is a complex one. We have a love hate relationship and sometimes we work together well and then sometimes we really don’t. I’ve had anxiety ever since I was a little girl despite it not being recognised (or even thought of) till I was around 19-20 years old so I am … Continue reading Anxiety For Me